What To Put On The Butt

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When choosing what to cover your kid’s butt with, there are a lot of things to consider.  How much money do you have to put into diapers right now?  How much access do you have to laundry?  Do you care if your diapers match your child’s outfit?  Would you be comfortable having a bag with soiled diapers in your bag?  The things to consider go on and on.  Another thing to remember is that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing.  Some people use a mix of cloth and disposable diapers depending on what they have to do that day.  Here I want to talk about some of the main differences and considerations of disposable diapers versus cloth.

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Choosing Whether to Use Childcare — A Working Dad’s Struggle

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So, this post is a bit more personal, and includes mostly my own experiences, thoughts, and feelings on the subject.  When you work from home, in any capacity, “being there” for your kids becomes a trickier thing to define and accomplish, because you’re rarely gone, but you still have to get work done as if you were leaving.  You have to wrestle with not only what childcare option is best for your kids, but also whether you should be using childcare at all.  Through trial and error, I’ve ended up in a situation that works well for me and my family right now, but your mileage may vary.  Regardless, perhaps my experiences can help you make your own decisions. Continue reading

Children and Video Games: Setting Appropriate Limits

As our society becomes more technologically based, learning to use that technology becomes not just a fun diversion, but a valuable life skill.  How else are children meant to learn, but through play?  Video games sometimes get a bad reputation for “ruining” children, but as with any entertainment medium, the key is the content and how it is presented.  While it will ultimately be up to the parent to determine how much and what sort of entertainment is appropriate for their child, the following presents several options and tools to help you make sure that your child’s video gaming entertainment aligns with your wishes and values. Continue reading

Breastfeeding Resources: Support and Clothes

For a mom who wants to breastfeed there is a ton of information out on the internet.  There is a lot of good information out there, and there is also a lot of bad information out there. These are some of the best resources and sites I used when researching breastfeeding and looking for support in general.  You may find some that work even better for you on your own, and I would love to see them in the comments. If you start having serious problems nursing, like pain or your baby isn’t gaining weight, contact an IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant).

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Tabletop Gaming for Parents

When Dragon Child was born, Astra and I had a (semi)regular weekly gaming group (mostly various RPGs with the occasional board game when multiple members were absent).  While he was still very small, this continued with no problems, since he would just rest in a carrier, nurse, or sleep for the entire session.  As he began to get older, keeping him entertained during the session became more and more difficult.  The group eventually broke up for unrelated reasons, but I realized I needed to find another way to play the games I loved while managing my children in a way that was fair both to them and the other players. Continue reading

The Parenting Side of Things

There are so many topics related to parenting that I plan to discuss here that it is tough to decide what to write about first.

Parenting is something which lately has gotten people into all sorts of arguments and tends to make people very defensive.  All parents are just trying to do what they feel is right for their children, but in today’s culture many people feel criticized or ashamed if they have made different parenting decisions from the mainstream or from their group of friends.  Once you start to feel isolated as a parent it is easy to get overwhelmed and to feel like any discussion of parenting techniques is people attacking your decisions.

What We Did

When approaching many parenting decisions as nerds we first gathered data, finding both hard facts as well as opinion pieces that resonated with us to help us make the decision that was right for our family.  As parents there is almost too much information about many topics, and it can be hard to weed out what is based on studies versus what is purely opinion or speculation.  Next we weighed the evidence and our opinions based on what we have found to come to our decision.  A certain amount of any decision is always based on how we feel, either with or despite the evidence.

When writing about topics here we are going to try to display all the evidence, even if it goes counter to what we have decided to do.  Making parenting decisions is something to be done with all the information, not just some of it.  We will not include studies which have been proven to be fraudulent or dis-proven as science has advanced.   We will also try to be clear when it is something which is our opinion rather than fact.

 

So You Want to Read Comic Books

It seems that characters inspired by comic books are everywhere now.  Many people are getting their first exposure to Iron Man, the X-men, Batman, S.H.I.E.L.D., and even Superman via blockbuster movies or ground breaking television shows.  However, someone who wants to experience these characters in their original medium can be easily daunted by the confusing variety of products with interweaving story lines and decades of backstory.  This is a shame, because comic books offer a unique storytelling medium that has matured over the years, developing gripping story lines accompanied by fantastic art that stimulates the imagination.  This post seeks to demystify reading comic books by explaining how comic book stories are structured, what physical (or digital) forms these stories come in, and how to acquire these stories and begin reading them. Continue reading

What is a Tabletop Role Playing Game?

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The Role Playing Game (or RPG for short) has been around since the early ’70s, and although many people have heard of popular RPGs like Dungeons and Dragons, Call of Cthulhu, Pathfinder, or GURPS, I still frequently encounter people who don’t have a good idea of how such a game works, what players actually do, or if it’s an activity that might interest them.  This post is for you. Continue reading